Your never really prepared......

I think one of the toughest things about being a parent is trying to figure out if your doing the best thing or *the right thing*.

Another moment of self doubt is was thrown out there for me yesterday.

The psychologist who has  been working with my son at the social skills group called with her *assessment* yesterday morning. Turns out he's a poor sport (no surprise there!). They opted to coin the phrase *quitter* instead of poor sport as that term seemed to have little impact on him. At the beginning where he chose to be defiant and insistant on not participating, towards the end he would continue even if he wasn't winning. Big accomplishment in itself.

They also worked with him on personal space, which I can understand. I was a little thrown off was when she had noted the personal space was more so from wanting hugs as a source of affirmation from adults when did accomplish something that had previously caused him anxiety. I kinda get it, but it was her comment that followed which consisted of *he has a need for affirmation. Im not sure where it comes from as I don't know his history.* His history?? What history? He does something positive, he overcomes a fear we ensure we know how proud we are of him. Hugs, kisses, praise - positive affirmation. That's his history.

I was also taken a bit aback when she told me they ended up spending alot of one on one time with him. No, it's not a bad thing - but I think for us it was putting him a group setting, I wasn't expecting that he needed more attention and behaviour modification then the majority of the group. It's like having the big ol' reality flag waived in front of your face and forcing you to realize that the *problem* might be that much bigger then what was anticipated.

Anyway, end result is that he attend *specialized camp* through the summer and he go back to the class again come September.