I'm finally done! Two booklets and 2 packages of questions later - I believe all questions have been answered as much as I could. I swear I could gather all the information I just put out (and answered the same question's over again) and write a book or a thesis!
I have to tell you for all the questions I could answer without blinking, there were just as many that I decided to leave blank or had to change my answer after much time spent over analyzing.
Does your child hate to loose? Umm, yup! If you win - you cheat!
Does your child feel the need for everything to be perfect? Yes!! If he can't do it right, he just shuts down!
Does your child pay attention to details?? He can tell you the name of almost every car every made and their specs
Does your child show a persuastion towards guns?? Ummmmm, he loves Star Wars! Ask him about real guns and Im sure he would draw a blank. His collection of Nerf guns and Light Sabers is not to be messed with. Watching my daycare kids and there desire to play with these items leads me to believe it's fairly normal for kids of this age.
Is your child afraid of strangers or being kidnapped - Yes! Yes he is. It's the doing of my husband and I. There was an attempted abduction a few weeks ago about 5 mins from where we live. Any kid who has heard even the slightest bit of the Victoria Stafford trail happening I believe is also afraid too!
I wish I knew what they were getting at with some of these questions. Im afraid of answering these without knowing for fear of creating an issue that isn't there. Yet I don't want to lack honesty either.
We are ready for our meeting this week, wish us luck!
Saturday, 28 April 2012
Thursday, 26 April 2012
*Camp* as we call it......
So my son is now into his 4th week of his social skills class. The first few times around were so much fun for him that he started calling it camp. We took it and ran with it - we now call it camp.
He came home the first day so excited to tell about the Easter crafts they had done and how much fun camp was. I was relieved! I realized this was much harder on me then it was him.
Then he came home last week, you could tell he had been crying. I sat him down asking how camp was. He told me he was having a rough time. Camp made him *mad*. I asked him what happened to which he informed me that they played musical chairs and he lost. He continued to tell me how everyone cheated. (Everyone cheats in my son's mind if he doesn't win). My heart was pounding. In one sense I was thrilled to know that the psycologists running this group had seen this side of him, the other I knew what we were in for.
I was bang on, the night was filled with melt downs, defiance and general frustration. I didn't push him to hard the next few days - letting him re-group and get back on track.
Then came going to *camp* yesterday. After I picked him up from the bus stop he informed me he didn't want to go to camp because he might have a rough time. It was boring and he didn't like playing with the kids there, he wanted to stay with the daycare kids here. I fed him his afterschool snack and let him know he had to go, there was no choice.
Again he told me how boring camp was when he got home. I asked him why, what was going on? I got a *I don't want to tell you*. I talked with him a little more and found out that they played a game with a *cake* and *two slices*. They had to run around the cake and the first person there got to slice the cake. I asked him if he got to slice the cake in which he told me no, I didn't play!
Are we making progress? I have no idea? Im guessing by his hesitation to go now that this group is doing what it's meant to which is fantastic, but hard all at the same time. I know we are looking at the bigger picture of things and I have to keep reminding myself of this.
The remainder of this week will be based on the filling out the booklets upon booklets of questions for his psych evaluation meeting coming up next week.
He came home the first day so excited to tell about the Easter crafts they had done and how much fun camp was. I was relieved! I realized this was much harder on me then it was him.
Then he came home last week, you could tell he had been crying. I sat him down asking how camp was. He told me he was having a rough time. Camp made him *mad*. I asked him what happened to which he informed me that they played musical chairs and he lost. He continued to tell me how everyone cheated. (Everyone cheats in my son's mind if he doesn't win). My heart was pounding. In one sense I was thrilled to know that the psycologists running this group had seen this side of him, the other I knew what we were in for.
I was bang on, the night was filled with melt downs, defiance and general frustration. I didn't push him to hard the next few days - letting him re-group and get back on track.
Then came going to *camp* yesterday. After I picked him up from the bus stop he informed me he didn't want to go to camp because he might have a rough time. It was boring and he didn't like playing with the kids there, he wanted to stay with the daycare kids here. I fed him his afterschool snack and let him know he had to go, there was no choice.
Again he told me how boring camp was when he got home. I asked him why, what was going on? I got a *I don't want to tell you*. I talked with him a little more and found out that they played a game with a *cake* and *two slices*. They had to run around the cake and the first person there got to slice the cake. I asked him if he got to slice the cake in which he told me no, I didn't play!
Are we making progress? I have no idea? Im guessing by his hesitation to go now that this group is doing what it's meant to which is fantastic, but hard all at the same time. I know we are looking at the bigger picture of things and I have to keep reminding myself of this.
The remainder of this week will be based on the filling out the booklets upon booklets of questions for his psych evaluation meeting coming up next week.
Monday, 2 April 2012
We are on our way.....
So here is where our story not so much begins, as it does continues.
As most of you know I have a bright, beautiful and *spirited* 7 year old son. Since he was a toddler he exhibted *quirks* that to us aren't anything more then a part of who he is. Things we've noticed:
- Aversions to certain clothing
- Covering his ears
- Epic melt downs
- Very smart
- Frustration
- Inability to cope
- Trouble making friends
Now through the years he has outgrown some of these things and we've always been fairly fortunate that we've had teachers who understand him and they way the world is viewed from his eyes.
His teacher this year has been instrumental. Through lots of communication, agreeing, and researching we are finally moving forward and hoping to discover just how he does view the world and how he can cope.
Now, we've always known that his world is a different from ours, and after having to take time to accept that his norm is not the same as ours we are prepared to move forward and find how we can make things *easier* for him.
He has been introduced to the CYC at school and is currently on an IEP program at school. This week he will start a social skills group. A group that will challenge all of his behaviours that aren't always so flattering and teach him how to deal with these in life and in the real world.
We also got home the psych package today. Pages and pages and pages of questions asking us everything from his weight at birth to how often he is sick and every known behaviour and traits he has exhibited over the past 4 weeks.
We are set to meet with the everyone May 1st, when all these forms are to be filled out and they will then continue on to to do a psych assesment through the school board to see if a diagnoses can be made.
So the journey begins.
As I write this through tears is my eyes I can honestly say I am relieved that this process is on it's way. I don't care about labelling my beautiful, sensative and loving boy. Our motives are to ensure every bit of ground work is laid for him in his educational career. So that we can ensure he always has what he needs to continue learning, striving and growing as he moves ahead in his schooling.
Tomorrow evening we break will be telling him about the social skills class he starts Wednesday. Wish us luck.
As most of you know I have a bright, beautiful and *spirited* 7 year old son. Since he was a toddler he exhibted *quirks* that to us aren't anything more then a part of who he is. Things we've noticed:
- Aversions to certain clothing
- Covering his ears
- Epic melt downs
- Very smart
- Frustration
- Inability to cope
- Trouble making friends
Now through the years he has outgrown some of these things and we've always been fairly fortunate that we've had teachers who understand him and they way the world is viewed from his eyes.
His teacher this year has been instrumental. Through lots of communication, agreeing, and researching we are finally moving forward and hoping to discover just how he does view the world and how he can cope.
Now, we've always known that his world is a different from ours, and after having to take time to accept that his norm is not the same as ours we are prepared to move forward and find how we can make things *easier* for him.
He has been introduced to the CYC at school and is currently on an IEP program at school. This week he will start a social skills group. A group that will challenge all of his behaviours that aren't always so flattering and teach him how to deal with these in life and in the real world.
We also got home the psych package today. Pages and pages and pages of questions asking us everything from his weight at birth to how often he is sick and every known behaviour and traits he has exhibited over the past 4 weeks.
We are set to meet with the everyone May 1st, when all these forms are to be filled out and they will then continue on to to do a psych assesment through the school board to see if a diagnoses can be made.
So the journey begins.
As I write this through tears is my eyes I can honestly say I am relieved that this process is on it's way. I don't care about labelling my beautiful, sensative and loving boy. Our motives are to ensure every bit of ground work is laid for him in his educational career. So that we can ensure he always has what he needs to continue learning, striving and growing as he moves ahead in his schooling.
Tomorrow evening we break will be telling him about the social skills class he starts Wednesday. Wish us luck.
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